The most fearful thing about falling in love is meeting the wrong person at the wrong time. Many boys finally get out of singlehood, but they meet a scumbag and end up with bruises all over their body. So during the dating stage, how can you tell whether a girl is a scumbag who is hanging on you or whether she really likes you?
"Investment" includes but is not limited to the time, energy, money, etc. you invest in this relationship.
To be more specific, for example, when you are pursuing her, you buy her flowers, a bag, and lipstick. When you are in love, you accompany her to eat, go shopping and watch movies. These are all investments.
Originally there is nothing wrong with investing in someone you like, but the scary thing is that while she does not take the initiative to invest in you, she never refuses your investment.
At this time, most boys began to be confused: If you don’t like me, please tell me. Why did you agree to go out to eat with me, and why did you accept the things I gave you? It looks like I still have the same chance.
What kind of girl would accept this with peace of mind? Even if she doesn’t like a boy, she would normally either refuse him directly, or accept the kindness of someone with a half-hearted push, and then decline politely.
2. Make a promise to you but never fulfill it
If she says "I don't know" If there are extenuating circumstances, such as "knowing your intentions but taking advantage of them" can be said to be very bad.
We often say that when you are in love, you should not reveal your neediness, that is, you should not reveal the fact that "you like her". Because exposing your needs will make the other person lose their desire to explore you prematurely.
Maybe she originally had a certain fondness for you, but the moment she knew your intentions, she would think that you were nothing more than that, and she would no longer be curious about you.
It doesn’t really matter so far. After all, you were “rejected with dignity” by the other party just because of your lack of love experience, and it was not as miserable as being played by her.
The worst case scenario is that she knows you like her and agrees to be with you, but after accepting all the good things from you, she abandons you. She relies on "you like her" to ruin your sincerity.
People who love you do not have to make promises to you, but people who do not fulfill their promises will definitely not love you.
3. Ignoring your feelings and being reluctant to let go
Falling in love with someone you shouldn’t like , separation is good for both you and her. But just when you were heartbroken and ready to leave, she threw another straw at you..
But not only can this straw not save your life, you feel that your belt is tightening even tighter.
She hints that you should not give up in a hurry, you still have a chance.
She gives you the illusion that "it's just close, you can reach her if you stand on tiptoe."
She encourages you to keep investing.
You suffer in this marathon relationship.
However, you have sacrificed so much, but you may not be able to get any sincerity from her.
She didn’t feel that she was wrong, and even called it a “test”.
You try hard to rush towards the "test" she set, but every time you get close to the end, she moves the end further away. She has no regard for your feelings.
Let’s not talk about the girl who likes you. Even a girl who has no feelings for you can't bear to see you suffer the sin of "failed hopes again and again" and can't bear to hang you like this.
So if you meet a girl you like who treats you like this, you should really reconsider your relationship.
